Getting Down and Dirty With the Root Cause of your Fear
9 times out of 10, fear will crush our dreams and keep us from moving forward.
Thats the bad news.
The GOOD news, the BEST news is that fear is actually our ally - because it cant just 'be quiet' it raises a huge "HERE I AM" flag in our lives so we know what we need to work on first.
Over the past couple of weeks Namaste and I have been doing a number of free broadcasts in the mornings that speak directly on how to deal with fear and what to do. (Those in the School of Alchemy will find all of them uploaded to the LIfe Alchemy section) If you arent in The School Of Alchemy you can click here: Join The School Of Alchemy for 37/month!!!
Here's a quick way to uncover what's hiding there beneath the fear (because its not 'debt', or 'lack' - those are just decoys.)
Use this tool: Five Why's -
The 5 Whys strategy is an easy to use, effective tool for uncovering the root of a problem. You can use it in troubleshooting, problem solving and getting down to the root of whatever is bothering you.
- Start with a problem and ask "why" it is occurring.
- Make sure that your answer is grounded in fact, then ask "why" again.
- Continue the process until you reach the root cause of the problem, and you can identify what to do to make a positive change toward what you truly desire.
Bear in mind that this questioning process is best suited to simple to moderately-difficult problems. Complex problems may benefit from a more detailed approach (although using 5 Whys will still give you useful insights.)
One thing about the Five Whys - BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF. If you intentionally lie to yourself this absolutely WILL NOT WORK.
Ok - here's an example:
I tell myself - I want to lose weight, but I cant seem to get rid of the excess weight no matter what I do.
Why? (what's the first thing that comes up in your mind?)
A: I havent done the work to lose weight.
A: I dont know who I'd be if I changed like that.
A: not losing weight keeps me from doing the things I enjoy
A: its a convenient excuse.
Why this tool is effective: You are much more powerful than you think you are. Taking proactive steps to stop lying to yourself and demonstrating your willingness to look your situation in the face is POWERFUL medicine to get you on the right track.
Often you are SO close to achieving your goal, but your fear is an illusion that stands in your way.